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EFT For The Small Stuff

Tapping is amazing for eliminating intense problems and chronic issues. It’s just remarkable, isn’t it? OK – that’s the big stuff. Are you remembering to use it for the little stuff, too? I’d hate for you to miss out on the smooth flow EFT can create in your everyday life.

No Drama Required

It doesn’t have to be a big deal to qualify for EFT. Any time your day is headed in a direction you don’t like, just start tapping. That’s how simple it is. For example, these scenarios are perfect for quick release with EFT:

• You feel a headache starting up.
• A work situation is frustrating you.
• You’re feeling pressured by a deadline.
• An issue at home is distracting you.
• You’re feeling a little overwhelmed.

Why Bother?

Maybe you’re figuring it’s too much trouble to tap, or you don’t have the time. But check your thinking here. Are you basing your decision on time it takes to clear a big issue. Think again… We’re talking about a matter of maybe five minutes max! That’s a pretty small investment for immediate peace of mind, isn’t it?

I Just Won’t Let It Get To Me

Or maybe this is your objection: I shouldn’t HAVE to tap on this. I should just buck up and get over it. Aren’t I more spiritually developed than to let this get to me? I’ll just blow it off.

I have news for you: bucking up usually involves pushing down. So the matter hasn’t gone away. It’s just gone underground to interfere in a more hidden way, and possibly mushroom into a larger issue.

Nobody’s looking…just use some EFT to get rid of it!

I’ll Do It Later

If you’re thinking you’ll deal with the problem later, that’s fine. Just be aware that a couple of things will probably happen. First, the concern will sap your energy in the meantime as you’re pushing it aside (and holding it there). AND the problem will likely take more time to clear because you’ll have to bring it back into consciousness again.

On The Plus Side

Beyond the obvious benefit of feeling better, here’s why doing EFT on the little stuff is a great option:

• It only takes a minute or two, with no need for doing the setup. You’re completely tuned in to the problem right now.
• You have no time to build up resistance to letting it go. So the release will go quickly.
• Your focus and overall energy will improve by releasing it.
• With the emotional charge gone, you can find a solution to the actual problem much more easily.

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Keeping Balance With EFT

EFT is all about balance. It’s a method to bring your system back to the naturally healthy and peaceful emotional state that is true balance. Essentially, EFT clears the excesses, bringing you back to the center.

Keep Your Own Tapping In Balance

Tapping is a terrific way to clear unwanted, negative feelings, events and physical problems. And that’s great. It’s so fast and so effective; what more could you ask for?

But if you use EFT a lot, it’s possible to get your point of view a little lopsided – focused mainly on problems. Even if you’re steadily eliminating those problems, you may be missing out.

You need to have some focus on the good stuff, too. Not just the absence of the negative. If this seems like splitting hairs, think about it a little more.

Musical Variety

What if that unwanted issue were a kind of music that you really dislike? It’s too loud or too sad or too annoying. So the EFT clears out that crummy tune and brings you to silence. Silence is a wonderful thing, and sure beats listening to that music you can’t stand.

Now here’s another issue you’re going to tap on (more crummy music). Then the blessed relief of silence (clearing with tapping). And again. And once more. And another time. Back to silence.

So what’s wrong with this picture? Silence is not the only option other than lousy music. What about some good music? Let’s get a little balance in here!

It’s possible to use EFT to make your own good “music” – some really positive focus. Here are some ways to create that balance.

On Your Own

Before you start tapping on a problem, take a minute to back off from the issue. Imagine what will be different when it’s no longer bothering you. Get a clear picture of the best possible outcome. Imagine how you’ll feel when you’re there. Yum!

Then come back to your issue and tap it away. You may find you’ll release it more quickly this way as your body-mind has a clear target for where it’s headed. This can lower your resistance to releasing the problem.

For the final few rounds of your tapping, tap in the positive. Use Pat Carrington’s Choices methods, or just make up your own positive statements. Include words of gratitude for being done with the problem. Add a round about how much you’re looking forward to new possibilities, going into detail about what those possibilities are.

Tap In Affirmations

Regularly tapping in affirmations is a great way to keep your balance. Click here to read a separate post about that.

How do YOU keep your balance with EFT? Let us hear how it goes for you and leave a comment below.

Tapping Away Delay - EFT As A Procrastination Solution

Getting stuff done in a timely way can be a challenge for a lot of reasons. Maybe you’ve got a really full schedule. Or a seemingly endless to-do list. You might have a lot of people depending on you for a lot of things. But there might be another reason.

Are You Procrastinating?

Sometimes the problem is just that you’re putting it off. You’re not alone. Everybody does it at one time or another. You know how it goes …. “Oh, I’d better do this first and THEN I’ll get to it.” Or maybe some version of “If I just wait, maybe it will get better/go away/get done by somebody else.”

What’s The Big Deal?

Maybe your delay doesn’t cause a big impact that you can see. But procrastinating uses up a lot of energy, when you stop to think about it. There’s energy spent each time you think about when you should do the thing. There’s energy spent on blaming yourself (or somebody else) for not doing it yet.

It takes energy to tell yourself all the reasons that you haven’t done it. So you see? Putting things off consumes a lot of mental energy.

And it’s really stressful to delay doing things. It can cause worry, aggravation, guilt and other unpleasant feelings. Then your body responds with tense shoulders, tight jaws, headaches, fatigue — you know how that goes. Stress can sure wear you out.

EFT As A Solution

Tapping can be a quick fix to get you moving. You don’t need to beat yourself up. You don’t need to analyze it. Just focus on your resistance to moving ahead. Then use EFT to clear that resistance. It doesn’t have to take much time, and can really get you rolling again.

To read more, click here.

Holidays Are Here! Are You Ready?

It’s December and the holidays have begun.  Yesterday, Muslims around the world celebrated Eid al-Adha — and celebrate the Islam New Year on the 29th.  We’ve got Hanukkah coming up on the 21st.  And folks who honor the winter solstice will celebrate that same day.  Then Christmas comes on the 25th, followed by Kwanzaa on the 26th.  And New Year’s Eve rounds out the month on the 31st.

What a party!  The whole world celebrates during December.  Little kids look forward to this month all year long.  Do you?  How’s it going for you this month?  Was Thanksgiving a nice appetizer for your winter holidays?  Or maybe it stirred up some worries, frustrations or sadness about approaching holidays.

Be Emotionally Prepared

Even fun things can be an emotional strain sometimes.  The planning, the anticipation, the hopes — all that can build tension.  And let’s face it — celebrating takes time and energy.  If you’re short on either, your feelings can end up out of balance.

If you’re NOT looking forward to some aspect of the holidays, that can be a real drain, too.  You can even find yourself resenting others’ happiness.  Or maybe just getting cynical so you don’t have to feel pain or sadness.

Nip It In The Bud

Tapping is such a simple remedy.  You don’t have to wait until you snap at someone, or find yourself on the verge of tears.  Just use EFT when you see the first sign that something’s bothering you.  Trust yourself.  You can do it! 

The Full Monty

Take some time out in a quiet place and do EFT on any big thing that’s bothering you.  Take your intensity level all the way down to zero.  That time you take to completely clear your issue will pay off for you throughout the season.  And its effects will flow out to other people around you, because you’ll act differently.  So don’t shortchange yourself. 

If it’s financial concerns, tap on that.  If it’s missing somebody for the holidays, do a session on that.  If you think you’ll never get it all done, use EFT for that. 

Sometimes holidays shine a light on issues that are there all year ’round.  Like money concerns, grief, envy — those big ones.  You can still just zero in on the holiday part of that issue.  Just stay focused there, and trust yourself to clear those blocks. 

Then commit to yourself to come back to that larger concern — either on your own or with a practitioner.  The point is this:  Just because you’ve got a big core issue you haven’t healed yet, it doesn’t have to spoil your holidays.  You can tap on the holidays part of it and clear that right now.

Day-to-Day  December

Stay on top of those little things that crop up.  Out in crazy traffic, tap at the stoplights.  Standing in a long line?  Tap away your impatience.  Are you trapped by Uncle Ernie again, whose had 3 too many?  Or is Great Aunt Lorena going on and on about her last operation?  Use EFT to get through it. 

Put Your Hands To Work

You can tap in your lap.  Just use one hand to tap against the side of the other hand — your karate chop point. You’re tuned into the issue, so don’t worry about a set-up. Just start tapping. Silently say your reminder phrases to yourself. Then affirm some good stuff, tuning into the joy and love of the season.

Or finger-tap with one hand.  There are tapping points on each of your fingertips.  On the side of your fingers that’s closest to your thumb, right at the side of the nailbed.  Use the thumb of that hand to tap on the inside of your other fingers on that hand, one by one.  Standing?  Put your hands behind your back and finger-tap.  Sitting?  Put your hand down on the seat beside you on the side away from the person you’re sitting with.  Then finger-tap away!

All Kinds of Options

You don’t have to resign yourself to a season of tension.  It’s totally possible to enjoy your holidays this year.  Try the methods above, and cruise through December.  You CAN enjoy yourself.

If you want some extra help, check out Holiday Stress Relief: The EFT Guide To Your Best Holidays Yet!  You don’t have to figure out what to say or how to tap — the eBook and audios are complete EFT sessions for you to tap along with.

Whatever you do, take good care of yourself.  And EXPECT to enjoy this season.  As always, I would love to hear from you.

Do you have any questions?  Comments?  EFT topics you want to learn about?  Just leave me a comment or email me any time.  And keep tapping!

EFT On Your Own — Jump Right In!

I hear a common fear from clients and students — that they’re afraid to try tapping on their own. Maybe you’ve got some of this same hesitation. It might be for different reasons.

Let me address a few of these. Hopefully, after reading this you’ll feel more sure of yourself and be willing to give it a try.

I’m Afraid I Might Do It Wrong

You can’t really do EFT “wrong.” There are ways to tap that get better results than others. That’s true. But you can’t really do it wrong. Follow EFT scripts you’ve printed out to get the idea. Or listen to your Stress Relief audio you downloaded for free when you signed up for my newsletter. Another option: click on EFT-The Basics and print out the instructions for yourself.

I Might Hurt Myself Somehow

EFT only works with the energy that’s in your system. So you can’t put in something that’s not there. True…you might bring something to the surface. But you can’t install something that doesn’t belong. So you can tap along with anybody’s tapping script. If their words don’t fit your life exactly, no big deal! It’s impossible for you to create a new problem by tapping about it.

I Don’t Even Know Where to Start

Start anywhere! What’s bugging you? What’s distracting you from what you want to do? You can tap on that. You could even start with your fear of tapping on your own. Try this:
Setup

• Even though I’m nervous about doing EFT myself, I love myself anyway.
• Even though I don’t have a clue about what I’m doing, I accept myself and I want to give this a try.
• Even though I’m afraid to trust myself because I’m new at this, I respect who I am and I want to move forward.

Tapping first round

• This tapping concern/fear/worry

Next rounds

• I don’t know what I’m doing.
• I’m afraid I’ll goof this up.
• I’m not a practitioner.
• I can’t do this myself.
• What if I cause myself problems?
• I want to let go of these fears.
• I’m ready to take a chance.
• I’ve got this tool right here and I want to use it.
• I’m choosing confidence.
• I’m feeling calm about this.
• I choose to make it easy.
• I’m willing to trust myself.
• I give myself permission to take a risk.
• I’m choosing to move forward now.
• I’m ready to go!

Finish Off with Positives

Thank yourself for your courage. Tap in some affirmations that you DO know what you’re doing. And you want to do this again. Affirm that you get better at EFT every time you do it.

Good for you! Let me know how it goes. I’d love to hear from you. Do you have other doubts or questions? Just ask…

Until next time, keep tapping!

Tapping Combination Plate: Mix It Up!

EFT as the Main Course

EFT is great as a stand-alone practice.  There’s no doubt about it.  But you can use it to boost all kinds of other activities, too.  The possibilities are limited only by your own imagination.

Tapping as the Appetizer

You can use EFT to clear any resistance before you do something you’re reluctant to do.  Maybe it’s going to the gym.  Maybe it’s heading into a weekly meeting.  Or getting started on a project, making a phone call, answering emails…

Or you can simply tap in affirmations to boost your confidence or willingness.  Just take a few minutes, even if it’s in the restroom at work, or out in the parking lot.

EFT as a Side Dish

When you’re doing any kind of energy work, EFT can seriously enhance it.  It’s a great tool to use while you’re getting acupuncture.  Just finger-tap while you’re on the table.  Zero-Balancing and Healing Touch are two other kinds of work that lend themselves to this.  Finger-tap while you’re doing any kind of self-healing work — from working out, to getting chiropractic, to visualizing.

Tapping as Dessert

Tapping in a positive experience can ramp up its good effects.  Just do some EFT with affirmations AFTER anything you get good results from.  Affirm how great you feel, how confident you are.  Tap while you congratulate yourself for overcoming fears or hesitation.  Affirm how much better your body feels.  Tap in your certainty that you’re getting healthier, stronger, more loving…whatever!  My clients tell me that this not only feels great, but makes the thing easier to do the next time. 

No Big Thing

So tapping doesn’t HAVE to be some huge deal.  By just using EFT in little ways in your daily life, you can get so much benefit.  You don’t have to change your clothes.  You don’t have to take a shower afterwards.  You don’t need to set aside an hour.  Just work it in with the rest of your life.  Piece of cake!

Keep me posted on how you’re doing with your tapping.  I’d love to hear from you.  Do you have any questions about EFT?  Just ask –  I’m glad to answer any time.

Whatever you do, keep tapping!

Affirmations with EFT

Using EFT is an easy way to ramp up the strength of your affirmations.  Some people say it’s like doing “affirmations on steroids.”  It’s a really powerful practice, however you look at it.

If you’re already saying affirmations, it takes no extra time — just add tapping.  If you’re NOT saying affirmations as part of your self-healing, why don’t you consider it?  It feels really good and can be a great way to add to your other practices.

Affirmations are simply positive sentences.  They can be reminders of good things that are already going on for you.  Or they can be about something you intend to have. 

State them in the present tense — the now.  Begin the sentence with “I …”  An example is, “I easily use EFT everyday to help myself.”  Another is, “I’m taking loving care of my body, mind and spirit.”

Some people think EFT is only good for clearing out unwanted emotions and beliefs — those negative blocks.  It’s the best tool on the planet for that. 

But it’s also great for watering the seeds of your positive beliefs and goals.  That’s where the affirmations come in.  If you’re using Choices in your EFT practice, you’ve already tapped in some affirmations.   Experienced or not, you could start using affirmations with EFT right now.  

Here’s how you do it:

• Choose some affirmations to use.  Write them yourself, or borrow them from another source.
• Write or type out your list. 
• Choose a permanent location for the list so you can find it.  You could post it by your mirror, keep it with your journal, keep a copy in your Day-Timer or glove box — be creative!
• Read your list out loud while you tap. 
• Say your affirmations with enthusiasm.
• Move around the tapping points.
• Change points at the end of a phrase or an affirmation.
• Super-charge your lsit by including some gratitude statements.

Tapping in affirmations is a great way to start your morning.  It’s also a good stress-reliever if you find yourself all wound up during the day. 

For double benefit, make it a twice-a-day thing and do it in the morning AND evening.  But here’s an important note:  Some people become more alert from tapping.  So don’t do EFT just before bed, unless you know it’s not a problem for you.  Tap in your affirmations after dinner.  Or during your evening walk.  Or even during a TV commercial break.

I hope you’ll give this a try.  It feels so good!  And let me know how it works for you.  I’d love to hear your experiences and comments.  Or if you’ve got an EFT question for me, ask it!

Until next time….keep on tapping!

EFT in your own voice

EFT is designed to give you emotional freedom.  And it’s a quick route to reach that destination.  There are two ways EFT gets you there:  through tapping and through words.

Tapping follows certain maps of points.  Words follow certain patterns.  But inside those patterns, you’ve got lots of options.  So choose the option that works best:  Your Own Voice.

What do I mean by that?  I mean use your personal words, your own phrases.  And if English is NOT your first language, use your first language.

Here’s why:

Feelings have thoughts that go with them.  Thoughts are made up of words — your words.  The energy blocks that EFT removes are connected to those feelings, thoughts and words. 

They got parked in your system in your language.  Your everyday words.  So back them out (with EFT) the same way you parked them — with your words.

Here’s how:

1. Trust yourself.  It doesn’t have to be perfect.  Just try it and see what happens.
2. Modify EFT scripts from EFT practitioners to fit your words.
3. Leave therapy talk and healing language for your other practices.  Your subconscious doesn’t talk in those words.  Your inner self speaks and thinks in everyday language.
4. Call feelings what you call them.  Here are some examples of options:

Anger:  Do you feel mad, frustrated, annoyed, furious, pissed off, outraged, or bugged?

Fear:  Do you feel anxious, nervous, worried, scared, jittery, tense, or concerned?

Sadness:  Do you feel bummed, blue, depressed, down, heartbroken, or gloomy?

You get the picture.  Use your own expressions and phrases while you tap.  And if you swear when you’re angry, swear when you tap on that issue that had you angry.  Let it out the same way it got lodged in there.

Results

Personalizing your own EFT will help you release issues more quickly.  Your system has one less kind of resistance in its path to healing. 

So give it a try and let me know how it goes for you.  Do you notice a difference?  I’d love to hear from you.

Until next time, keep tapping!

EFT: Losing focus when you’re tapping

With EFT, you may find yourself mentally drifting off while you’re tapping.  Maybe you start thinking about what’s for dinner.  Or maybe another issue grabs your attention.

No need to get upset — it’s really common.  In fact, it can be a natural part of the tapping process.

Why you lose focus:

Usually, it’s because your emotional intensity level has dropped way down.  That’s always good news.  Right?  That means you’re healing your issue.

Sometimes a related issue is now larger than the one you started with it.  It’s figuratively waving its hand, saying “My turn now.  Look at me!”

What to do:

There are simple ways to get back in focus so that you can finish off your original issue.  Don’t settle for halfway — go for zero. 

Here’s what you can do:

1. First, let go of any frustration or self-blame about losing focus.  It’s a good sign that you’re really clearing something.  Your EFT session is successful.
2. Stop and write down whatever is calling for your attention.  Let the paper hold it for now, instead of  your mind.
3.  Intend to re-focus and include that in your setup statement:  Even though a small part of me still has some (problem) and it’s so small that it’s hard to focus, I’m choosing to stay right here with this remaining (problem).  I want to let it ALL go.
4. Include some focusing language in your tapping:  I’m staying focused on this remaining (problem).  I’m focusing on healing this (problem) completely.

Remember:  It’s your body-mind — your energy system.  You’re in control, so help yourself out when you need it.  And don’t forget to give yourself credit for the great job you’re doing.

What do you think?  Do you have any EFT questions?  Leave a comment here anytime — I’d love to hear from you.

Whatever you do, keep tapping!

Tapping while you work out

Using EFT to boost your physical health is so easy!  I used it at the gym today — like I do every time I go.  You can use it when you’re walking or running, too.

EFT at the gym

Any time you have one hand free, you can finger-tap.  On the treadmill, using leg machines, sitting on the bike, etc.  Just tap in affirmations.  Silently say anything that comes to mind about improving your fitness. 

When your hands ARE occupied, just imagine that you’re tapping.  If sticking with just one tapping point is simpler, do that.

Tapping while you walk or run

Finger-tap those affirmations.  Say them out loud if it suits you.  Or be bold and do all-out EFT while you walk.  Tap around all the points.  If someone looks curious, just give them a big grin!  It’s unlikely they’ll call the men in white coats.  Really!  Maybe they’ll ask what you’re doing, and you’ll get a chance to share this great tool.  You just never know…

What do you say? 

Say what makes you feel good.  Encourage yourself towards your fitness goals.  Here are some examples:

• I’m getting stronger and stronger.
• My pace gets faster every day.
• I love being so fit and healthy!
• With every step, I’m increasing my energy.
• My lungs are powerful.
• I’m closer and closer to my goal.
• I’m so thankful for my fabulous health.

You get the picture.  Be creative and throw in some gratitude for an extra boost.  Cheer yourself on!

Wonderful side effects

The benefits will surprise you.  Here’s what happens:

1. You enjoy your exercise more.
2. Your body-mind responds on all kinds of level.  You’re more relaxed, so blood flows more easily.  Then more oxygen gets to your muscles.  You can last longer, go farther, stretch further — get healthier faster!
3. Your body-mind remembers that good feeling.  You’re more motivated to go the next time.
4. Other people pick up the feel-good vibe.  You actually feel like smiling and interacting with people.  You get to resign from the Grim Gym Crew.

Let us know how this works for you.  Do you have more ideas on how to use EFT?  We’d love to hear them.

Whatever you do, keep tapping!  Stay tuned…